What made you become an Accompanying Partner?

Make the best out of your life abroad(3)


The way we experience our life as Accompanying Partners pretty much depends on the reason why and the moment we took the decision to live abroad. If we move because of our partners’ job we have other expectations than if we do so because of our own job and if we add a family to the picture, our whole focus changes.

Here are three main categories of decisions that make people embark on an international journey:

  • The graduate-decision / adventure-decision

If we made the decision before even starting to work or having a family: our expectations may be “Whatever job/life opportunity I’ll have, I’ll make the best out of it!” – In the back of our mind we still have the safety anchor: “If it doesn’t work for me, I just go back…”

Maybe you started your journey as a single and continued as a couple. – What are the major changes you experienced during this shift?

  • The young-couple decision / job-life-decision

If we made the decision after having worked already some time, maybe we’re in a relationship, then we most probably moved abroad hoping for a better life style, a better job, or because we want to change our career, or we decide to take a pause from our job.

The main focus is still on the job and on our own needs. Also parents whose children are already grown up can move abroad for the same reason. Some start an activity – after or right before retiring – or completely focus on their retirement.

  • The parents/family-decision

If we start this journey as a young family, we’ll most probably take this step because of our partners’ job and because we are excited about a life change. We most probably focus on our family, our children, and are prone to hold back with our own career (and needs)…

What exactly would you expect from this life for yourself, your personal and professional development?


Which decision did you take? Would you add another category to the list?


  1. A mix up of reasons but, basically new husband working in oil and the adventure of living on Borneo. Life took us from there to Oman, back to Venezuela, then Denmark snd now England. I only regret missing some important days in the lives of friends and family. I believe an expat lufe can never be rajen lightly.

    • Thank you for your comment, Sheila! So you’ve moved mainly for your husbands job? It seems an exciting and very interesting journey! Yes, living internationally doesn’t allow to be always present in the lives of friends and family. This is one big downside about this. It is exciting and interesting, but one can be torn between the different worlds we live in. How did you manage? You say that you’re back in England now? Did you repatriate recently? I’d love to hear what your experience is with this last part of your journey too. – What about your career, your “passions”: was it possible for you to work in the places you’ve lived?
      I apologize for all these questions… I’m genuinely interested in other accompanying partners’ experiences 🙂

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